On Loving That Lady in the Mirror...

Does anyone else find all of the hubbub around Valentine’s Day a bit amusing (to say the least)?  I’ll be the first one to tell you how much I LOVE love, but then I come across things like this, and I just can’t help but laugh hysterically at the honest truth.

Whether you are feeling smitten or standoffish at this time of year…  I’d like to chat a bit about the importance of loving YOURSELF amidst a month typically focused on glittery cards, cheap roses and tiny, yet expensive dinners.  (Why are the dang portions so small, anyway?)


By giving ourselves generous helpings of grace, regular affirmations, and treating ourselves with the same tenderness that we'd treat a soul mate or a child can make a massively positive difference in the way that we perceive our own worth.  Sounds just a smidge selfish until you realize that women with high-levels of confidence are known for accomplishing great things, and I just KNOW you've got big dreams for this life, my sweet friend.

Truthfully, I hadn’t ever thought much about the impact that active self-care can have on the people around me until I picked up The Happiness Project by Grechen Rubin this past Fall (it was one of the best things I laid eyes on in 2013!).  There were SO many reasons why I loved the book, and reading about all of the ways that she sought to add joy to her life was truly contagious.  

She tested and observed the different ways in which increasing her own happiness affected every area of her existence, and the following observation seemed to continually pierce my heart like cupid’s arrow:  Loving yourself is quite possibly the best way to emphasize and grow your capacity to love others.

You might be thinking, “Sure, Sure - It SOUNDS nice, but most days my brain keeps a running list of ways that I could work more or be a better friend or look differently from the way that I do now.  How do I love the lady in the mirror despite such a nagging, dragging list?” 

I’ve written a bit about my struggle with the very same concept before, but also love how it’s phrased in this little snippet below:

The practice of loving myself has been filled with ups and downs- and that is ok- because it is a “practice” and I am still learning to get good at it. The practice of loving myself has brought miracles into my life. As Louise Hay says so beautifully “You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving yourself and see what happens.”
— Serena Dyer

B-Money happens to agree with me on this point... YOU are a treasure, and I think we can all admit that treasures deserve to be treated with resounding love and precious care.

Will you give it a go for me this week?  If it feels too daunting, I’d be curious to hear more about whether there is something specific that might be standing in your way… Let me know by replying below, and I always look forward to hearing what's on your heart, my sweet Pepper Girls.

XOXO - Jessie Pepper

P.S. - If you live in NYC, I’d love to see you at the Self-Love Celebration I’m co-hosting with a few fabulous ladies tomorrow night… Tickets are available right here, and I’m so excited that I’ll get a chance to hug some of you there!


MAJOR FAVE:  Dark chocolate, you guyzzzz!  It’s popping up in all shapes and sizes this month, but I’m partial to this organic & fair-trade variety... I go through a bar every week!  It rations out perfectly as a little after-dinner morsel, and I can’t help but tell myself that treasres deserve a special treat at the end of the night. :)