About a month ago, I had a friend make a fairly innocuous (yet somewhat biting) remark about the fact that I seem to have a knack for whacking people over the head with my unbridled* enthusiasm. #OOPS
Before you jump to the conclusion that my friend is rude (because she definitely isn't!), and before I feel the need to crawl into a hole for being overly-sensitive (because I definitely am!), I should clarify that her heart was totally in the right place.
The observation popped up because we were discussing why my “coming on strong” can be off-putting to folks who may not be familiar with my overall disposition, and she was providing feedback with the intent to help me find a bit of clarity on the matter.
Let’s just say I’ve ALWAYS been a bit excitable, and can ABSOLUTELY recognize my tendency to overwhelm others when I’m bursting at the seams with something I’m super-jazzed about.
Interrupting this regularly scheduled love note with jazz hands and big smiles to tell you HOW HAPPY I AM THAT YOU’RE HERE!!!
Even in the moments when I’m feeling generally “meh” on all other counts (which might happen more than you would think), if you happen to ask me about the tastiest hot sauce or my thoughts on impromptu dance parties or my favorite non-streaky self-tanner… It’s likely that I will eagerly launch into a heartfelt briefing and then ask if you’ve got another 2 hours to grab coffee so that I can give you the full rundown. ;)
As I’ve thought about how this expressiveness could be affecting different areas of my life recently (positively OR negatively), a very interesting thing has happened: I’ve seen the above quote pop up in THREE separate places online this week, and keeping it front-of-mind has seemed to magically hold those ugly little meanie mongers at bay. You know the ones I’m talking about?
“WOULD YOU CALM IT DOWN, LADY?!”
"No one believes that you’re genuine.”
“Stop wasting your energy."
I try my best to answer:
“This is how I was created.”
“My warmth will show the posture of my heart."
“Honest intensity can provide inspiration to others."
I understand that not everyone naturally possesses the same levels of general enthusiasm about life (thank goodness, or we’d probably be REALLY sick of each other by now!), BUT...
Is mustering up or toning down enthusiasm ever something that you struggle with in your own life? Reply here and tell me if you've ever had to push past the hump of letting it hold you back, and I can't wait to hear what's going on in that beautiful heart of yours!
SERIOUSLY Excited Call You a Friend,
XOXO - Jessie Pepper
Ps. - My purpose has been revamped just a bit, and you’re welcome to take a peek here.
* There she goes with the horse metaphors again.